I must admit that I used to think that in order for me to find a wife, she must consider me to be the most important man in her life. Now before you religious zealots get to stewing, we all are aware that God should be the head of any persons life and thus the most important. We're talking people of the flesh though . . . so simma down nah! That being said, it was imperative that I was the most significant male figure in her life . . . if I was her man. The end all be all, the alpha and the omega . . . literally . . . THE MAN!
However, as I have grown and matured, first in myself and secondly in my ability to handle relationships, i have learned it is best that men should hope to be the second most important man in any woman's life. The first should be her Father.
As much as it is imperative that men be shining examples of what it means to be a man to their sons, it is just as imperative that men be exemplary examples of what it means to be a man to their daughters.
For Father's are from hence women first learn what it means to be loved by a man. Fathers are from where minimums regarding levels of respect, appreciation, and the ability and willingness to provide for a women come. A good father not only lives with the hope of being a quality example of a man to their fathers, but takes pride in showing such in the treatment of his daughters Mother.
In my past and present, this conclusion has held true; that any woman that has been loved by her Father in a fashion that creates high standards and expectations within her regarding the men she is courted by will more often than not be a woman more than worth the chase.
I have seen not only in my past relationships, in which non-present Fathers have no comprehension of the template that they are providing to their impressionable daughters, but even more so today in my relationship with my wife. Her Father is an exemplary man who has in conversation shared with me his adoration for his daughters and how honorable and proud a position he holds as Father.
Now please take notice that I capitalize the word "Father" in every occurrence. The reason being that it is only proper that this proper noun receive the capitalization that any person who performs well in a high role, responsibility or position deserves. For being a "Father" is a title not earned through placing one's seed, but through the performance of that title, and thus, can be performed by any willing man.
Now for those of you outstanding women who have been raised by single Mothers, outliers exist in all most any situation, however I would argue that someone close played the "Father" role sufficiently enough.
So men, in all our machismo, early in our relationship life, we should aspire to be the second most important man in her life, for we would only hope to live up to the expectations that have been set by the man in head of you.
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Response Striving to be Number Two
It’s arrogance that makes us as men want to be the MAN!!!! To our future or current wives. We are essentially MEN and in that very territorial as well as competitive creatures with other MEN naturally but is a husband a Father or a Father a Husband????? These are two very distinctly different people. So with a Father and Husband being distinctly different we should want to be our mates or wife’s Alfa and Omega with the end all be all being mutually between the two of us.
The Husband
Our women want a strong man, a ALPHA MAN and we as men although some of us don’t say it or display it we two want and desire a strong woman because we know inside without their strength we are only good men but with their strength we can be great Men!! I know we like to think as Men “we are the everything” but achieving the top spot requires support like a quarterback receiving accolades for their teams achievements but I ask what achievements would they have without the support of their team?????? I know as the Quarterback receiving accolades in the mist of excitement “I did it myself” mentality we BELIEVE but as God molded, created to stand beside man with the support and the strength of thousands he giveth us the beautiful woman EVE. So do strive to be your mates or your wife’s number one, her ALPHA, her Omega but as a husband not as a father because that spot is already taken.
The Father
At the time you meet this extraordinary woman that steals your heart, for she feels her heart you too have also stolen but there is that part that forever belongs to another MAN, and that MAN is her Father. Who is held in that special place in her heart. It’s that love you feel from her, that other MAN, her Father taught her, it’s those morals and values that attract you to her, that other MAN her Father gifted to her. It’s the qualities, that other MAN her Father taught and instilled in her that attracted your attention so leave that Father spot to the rightful owner, that other MAN her FATHER.
Be Her ALPHA and OMEGA Husband and leave the ALPHA and OMEGA Father spot to that other MAN her one and only FATHER.
To address the Father part of your comment, without contention is the fact that any man which courts a woman will not be able to replace her Father; for it is a role which he doesn't have the qualifications to submit for by nature alone. That role can only be performed by the person who provided his seed and took it upon himself to not only be a tool for bringing her into this world, but a Father to that woman. It may also be performed by a man who steps up in his stead . . . as a Father, but never by someone who courts her. That being said, for any man to attempt to "be" first in that role is performing an exercise in futility.
I do agree that all women want a strong man in their life, but I contend that the definition of a "strong man" is first and foremost exemplified by the man that has displayed that role in said woman's life. However if there is no man there to exemplify those qualities and characteristics (or a man which does so in a insufficient or negative fashion), it is safe to assume that when she encounters those qualities or characteristics she will either be unable to recognize them when they are set upon her, or she will mistake other qualities and characteristics (those exemplified in a negative manner by the man that "called" himself her Father) for strength which more often than not will lead to her detriment. Which leads us back to my final sentence of the original blog, "So men, in all our machismo, early in our relationship life, we should aspire to be the second most important man in her life, for we would only hope to live up to the expectations that have been set by the man in head of you."
Unless one is witness to the characteristics that a strong man or woman for that matter is comprised of, it will be exceptionally difficult for them to distinguish among the many men or women who they will undoubtedly engage in their relationship history which of those are strong people. It is the role of the Father to exhibit those qualities and characteristics while rearing his children, for he will be the template of what it is to be a "strong" man and thus will set the expectation and standards that those children will require.
Therefore, I restate that men should, in the least early in their courtship of a woman, hope to be the second most important male in her life. That would assert that someone, a male Father figure, has significantly and adequately established a quality set of standards and expectations for which she will be able to use as a template to judge the worth of the men which engage her. If you exhibit these qualities and live up to these expectations, it is without a doubt that you will earn the #1 spot (and title of Husband) in her life.
People have to become adept at understanding that one's rearing will impact their ability to give and receive love. Is not having a Father which exemplifies the qualities of a good (and strong) man insurmountable, by no means. Is it a feat that will be exhausting to accomplish regardless of the strength of said woman. . . most definitely.
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